Matriarchal and Female's Approval  


        " My Need for female approval,acceptance as a Fem-male "

   I know I've always favored a primary  Matriarchal type society.

   I've always wanted to be recongnized by females as a sexually inverted male, and sanctioned to only have sex with men with myself being  female roled.

   I have always had this worry females would see me to be corrupting  male sexuality by myself performing for men like I am a female. I think in    part , the reason in my mind that I've always had the over-whelming    desire to look female like mainly only by way of ; not having a penis, yet  have a female looking vulva, to show that I am sexually only to be in the female role.

   For example; as soon as I was into/thru puberty, had lost my sexual virginity by being penetrated by males and very much wanted the  female role ever since, yet have always desired the approval,acceptance  from females more then anything.

   For example ; If a male whom has a female partner in marriage or a standing relationship desires to me to perform for him as a fem-male, there by performing fellatio on him and or penetrating me anally, He and I need the Approval from his Female partner.

   Thus for myself, it's always been a desire that both Females and Males see me as ;

                         "fully emasculated into the female sexual role, the ultimate emasculation being having a vulva to represent my status as " female-roled sexuallyonly

Like the The Pueblo Indians, situated in the Southwestern United States, are one of the oldest cultures in the nation. Their name is Spanish for “stone masonry village dweller.” They are believed to be the descendants of three major cultures including the Mogollon, Hohokam, and Ancient Puebloans (Anasazi), with their history tracing back for some 7,000 years.

The vast majority of Pueblo tribes lived in a clan system, with many of the tribes, including the Hopi, Zuni, Keres, and Jemez, descending matrilineally. Thus, the women owned the house and garden, providing them with more respect than in other northern tribes of the times.


A lot of Native American tribes were matrilineal instead of the typical patrilineal societies you see from Europe. This meant that you were descended from your mother's clan, not your father's. It was also meant the women were involved in the decision-making process for the greater good of the tribe. Some of the more well-known matrilineal societies are the Lenape, Hopi and Iroquois.

            And I have a kinship with their matrilineal idea, as they accepted a person as me, a male            whom wishs to be in the female sexual role , work with females as a " berdache type"

Berdache. A strange word, to be sure, but one that has a long and complicated history. The Berdache tradition is a Native American/American Indian tradition that allowed for gender role change.

Gender role change is the adoption, for various reasons, of a culturally defined social role that is dictated to the opposite sex. This means that a man could adopt the social role of a woman and vice versa. In the Berdache tradition, this was almost always a permanent change.

At least for myself, after I lost my virginity with males treating me like a female "impregnating" me,at least in my eyes " I was letting them impregnate me ", and greatly desiring this role.

  If society was such as in the Pueblo tribes as the Zuni tribe, and others, I could publically been accepted as "female-roled", thus started dressing female like, work among / with the females, and the males of the tribe (non-berdache type) could ask me to perform sexually as a female for them.

  If the male was single, no issue, yet if partnered with a female, he and I must get her permission before I can perform for him sexually .


   In reality, and from my own experince, it was very important for myself that a married man get his wife's approval if I was to be his fem-male sex partner.


  At least in my mind, it is very important not to threaten their relationship, and hopefully help it.

Excerpts from above article ;

“I sometimes try to imagine what would have happened if we’d known the bonobo first and the chimpanzee only later-or not at all. The discussion about human evolution might not revolve as much around violence, warfare and male dominance, but rather around sexuality, empathy, caring and cooperation. What a different intellectual landscape we would occupy!”
― Frans de Waal

Views about Nature

The matriarchal system is nature-oriented. The matriarchs regard nature as an organic whole, and lay emphasis on maintaining its balance at all times. Owing to this, those sources of energy, which do not harm nature in any way are used more (sun, wind, water, etc.). Conservation and recycling of resources are considered important, in order to maintain the balance of nature.

On the other hand, the patriarchal system is consumer-oriented. The patriarchs believe that nature has immense resources, which can be used by humans, in order to make profits. Accordingly, nature is considered as a thing to be exploited, and often, non-recyclable resources are used up, leaving by-products that can be harmful for natural balance.


Matriarchy is a very open social system, which does not have any hard and fast moral code of conduct that people are expected to follow. Morality, in matriarchy, is a very personal aspect, wherein people are allowed to have their own way as long as they are not harming or disturbing others.

Patriarchy lays down a very strict moral code of conduct, which people are expected to follow, come what may. These rules are essentially governed by religion, government, etc. Patriarchy always seeks to teach people the difference between the good and bad, right and wrong, and so on.

Sexual Orientation

A matriarchal society is often sexually open, and sex is regarded as a religious expression. Owing to this, all kinds of relationships―heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual, etc.―are acceptable to the matriarchal society.

A patriarchal society is often sexually repressive. This is because sex here is considered to be of two kinds―one that is for procreation, in which case it is considered to be sacred, while the other one is lustful love, which is regarded to be sinful, and brings shame. Moreover, a patriarchal society essentially accepts only heterosexual relationships and is largely homophobic.

Virginity, Rape, and Illegitimacy

The matriarchal society allows its members to choose if they want to indulge in sexual activities or not. Virginity has no place in the matriarchal outlook. Because this kind of society is open with respect to sexual relationships, rapes do not or very rarely occur. Moreover, a mother always knows her children, and so, there is no question of illegitimacy.

Female virginity, in patriarchal societies, occupies a very prominent place, and is considered to be a virtue,mainly because society is not very open about sexual relationships. Rape is often used as a brutal expression of power and control over the weaker sex. Possibility of illegitimate children is very high in patriarchal society because the father need not always know his children.

Matriarchy, which was widespread in historical times, seems to have declined to a great extent today, with most of our mainstream societies now being patriarchal in nature. It is, however, notable that matriarchy still exists, not only in many primitive/tribal groups around the world, but also in the form of a subculture within patriarchy. So, though we know that patriarchy took over with the passage of time, it is rather difficult to say whether or not matriarchy ever ceased to exist.

Nature of Worship

Worship in the matriarchal religion is extremely joyful and enjoyable. Owing to the fact that the matriarchal religion is based on the ideology of pantheism, every task that people perform is considered to be sacred, and hence, is regarded as worship of the goddess.

In the patriarchal religion, worship is very serious. There are various myths with regard to the wrath of gods, and how several men were cursed because of their wrong deeds. Owing to this, the main emphasis of the patriarchal religion is always on the appeasement of gods, rather than pure, selfless worship.  -

I do believe that if the " Female-roled male " status was sanctioned, thus accepted the vaginoplasty type surgeries would be much further advanced technologically as far as technic, there would be many more skilled surgeons , much more knowledge on the effects of hormones etc. 

  For example ; could I keep say one of my testes internally to maintain the testosterone my body is used to ?, this being the main reason that I haven't pursued truly getting my penis replaced with at least a zero-depth vagina.

Because for me, at least since after puberty, I known that I only desire to like a female sexually, and have very much disliked having a penis.

              Yet even prior to puberty I dreamed of having a the look of female,

                                   and having a vulva, not a penis.

     Thus when a male or female sees me, they know at               least I am, and can only be sexually in the ;



At least as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be like a girl


  I do know in a civilization such as in      The United States, we have come to;

  Greatly accept and endorse Violence.

          How long can that endure ?

Some scenarios which related to ;

                                      " female approval"

A scenario;
                  Let's say her and I are good friends, we go hiking / camping for few days in wilderness area, she knows full well I am a berdache type, the above male we meet on the trail, as we are setting up camp,he is alone, we all talk,  her and I feel him to be a good / honest guy.
                                                                                 We ask if he wants to camp here with us.
                                                                                        He does, we chat late into night,
                 My girl-friend (platonic), really likes him, and clearly he likes her, the next day he remains with us, and my g/f tells me she'd really like to have sex with him, I agree I to would love to perform for him sexually as well, when he and I are alone, I tell him or hint to him that she likes him, also I explain,
                             I am a berdache type male,female-roled sexually and our friendship is platonic,
                 That night, again he stays, her and him clearly are ready ,desiring each other ,
                             he makes a gesture toward kissing her, she kindly halts him,
                                  and says to him,
"Only if you will fuck Michael as well ".

                                                He agrees, thus her and I both get his attention.
                                                                                               - Group Cooperation / evolution-
                                                                                                                - Diversity-



                                                  Imagine your a Male(Me) with a family,  female partner(Jodi) and a child

                                                                Living some where in North America Savanna

                                                          You's live partly by hunting,partly by growing maze(corn)

                                                   You the Male have been out hunting, upon returning to your family,

                                                           eager to introduce them to a wolf pup that you had found,

                                                        You find your Jodi tending to/caring for a badly injuried male (New).

                                                               As like the Wolf, a New possible member of your pack
                                                                                      has entered your Lives !, 
                                                              It takes months for this new male to recover from his injuries
                                                                        Me has to hunt still,now feeding another as well,

                          Hunting Alone is already difficult compared to when Jodi could help with the hunt, before the child was born.

                                             During this Healing time for  New  ,both me and Jodi have become fond of New,

                                  He helps out best he can, shares knowledge,skills and After New is well enough to go on hunt with Me,

                                              me sees New is a very good hunter, and together Me and New can hunt larger animals,

                                                         As the Wolf pup grows, it soon is clear,the Wolf can help protect Jodi and child, 

                                                                while Me and New hunt, this is a Good thing ! for the pack.
                                                                              Soon love and empathy grow amongst all,

                                                                Me will often see New from a distance alone masturbating,

                                                          Me knows there must be other females in distant places, yet where ?
                                                                     Me has very much noticed the  coquettishness between  between New and Jodi,

                                                              The Thought of his Jodi and New having sex now enters his mind

 This Thought occurs more and more , cognitive dissonance sets in !

                                                            Me cares for both deeply, Me can't hate, want to harm either, even if ;

                                                                     "New and Jodi had already had sex without his knowing "

                                        Me has only one choice, tell both New and Jodi about these thoughts he has been having ,

                                                          Upon telling of, the " Idea" Me has been having, to Jodi and New together, 
                                                             Jodi and New both  Reluctantly confess, knowing it may harm Me;

                                                              Both admit they are very attracted to each other sexually.

                                             Me sees one choice, see the pack destroyed, or submit to suggesting ;

                                                                     That Jodi and New start mating, endorsing it ! 

                                              Un-Aware to them all , just introducing Genetic Diversity to Humanity,

                      For myself, obviously being pre-disposed to submitting to another male treat me like a female,

                                                                         when 13 years old,finding I liked it alot !

                                                               Thus once knowing / seeing Jodi and New mating,

                                         Me likes seeing New's erect penis in Jodi, likes watching as New ejaculates in Jodi,

                                    Me and New go out on a hunt together the following day, both under the influence of, 

                                     the events that just occurred, both content, upon resting, they sit and talk of this,

                                             New event, Both admit it was very Good, Me reluctantly confesses he liked seeing New's,
                                                 Erect penis , then Me goes on to tell New about the sexual experince which he had,

                                           as a youth, how he had routinely sucked another young males penis, and how that male,

                                                                            had routinely impregnated himself anally,

                                                             As they talked ,both New and Me found themselves both growing erect, 

                                                                     New asks Me,  " Would you like to suck my penis now ? ",

                                                   Me replies ;  " Yes ! ", and within moments Me is on his knees in front of New,

                                                 Me takes New's penis into his mouth, sucks it tell New ejaculates into Me's mouth.

                                                                               The Roles just changed !, and very much Set !

                                            Me just ultimately submitted, New is the new Alpha Male.

                                             Because the strong bond / love of Jodi,New,Me. the need to keep this pack together,

                                                 Because Me had given great empathy to New, in allowing New to mate with Jodi,

                        New now routinely pleasures Me sexually by allowing Me to perform fellatio on him. and by penetrating Me,
                                                                                    anally and ejaculating in Me's bottom.

                               Thus everybody's needs in the pack are met, as Me can no longer mate with Jodi. this is known to all. 

                                                                                Thus Me now takes a Female like Role
       After in reality experincing 2 long relationships with females , and  being a " Cuckold ". I spent much time wondering " Why ? "

  This best explains how I feel

                                                                                                                                                        - ME, Michael Emery

I often imagined that living amongest a Amazon tribe would be Ideal for myself

Why attractive women want gay male friends:

A previously undiscovered strategy to prevent mating deception and sexual exploitation - Researchgate

" There are strong theoretical reasons that women's physical attractiveness should play an important role in influencing their likelihood of forming friendships with gay men. Physically attractive women are frequently the targets of both unsolicited sexual advances from straight men and of envy and jealousy from other straight women" (Dijkstra & Buunk, 2002; Massar & Buunk, 2009).

Mate guarding in humans - wikipedia