Even though I was a female-roled/receptive sexual partner for men from 1997-2004,

I very much prefer being a female-roled/receptive sexual partner for jack donkeys, stallion ponys and large intact male dogs.

Analzying Bestiality by Sarah Wheeler -the possibility of moral bestiality

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Morality is something one cannot take for granted.  We grow up in a culture with certain mass assumptions, certain given taboos, and we accept them.  But when one begins to question, when one learns that a certain taboo (such as homosexuality) is in fact a sound practice, it becomes necessary to examine more and more assumptions until you may evaluate a practice on it’s own grounds, and not the grounds that society has assigned to it.

    Bestiality is the practice of having sex with a non-human animal - most commonly, horses and dogs.  It is assumed that this practice is animal abuse, that it is an issue of power much like rape or pedophilia, and that the humans who engage in it are psychologically unsound.  This I have questioned.

    Of course, when considering the ethicality if any action, one must outline what would qualify or disqualify an act.  Bestiality would most certainly be immoral should the animal be raped, and it is entirely possible to rape an animal.  But just as it is possible to violate consent, it is also possible to obtain it.  Bestiality may be considered immoral on other grounds, such as setting back the best interests of the participants or by the mere act displaying a psychological deficiency in the human.  It would also be immoral should the human merely use the animal for his/her selfish interests, if you will, as a means to an end; however, many bestialists - or zoophiles, as some prefer to call themselves - maintain a deep and caring emotional bond with their non-human partners.

The Animal Side: Consent and Understanding

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The foremost considered issue when considering bestiality is that of consent.  Can an animal consent?  Popular wisdom says no.  Before determining whether they may consent, however, one must consider what consent is and what it means.

    Consent, most essentially and basically, is agreeing to participate in an action, or to have an action done upon you, of your own free will.  But one must consider more than that; you must have proper knowledge of what the action is, and all information about the proposed situation that may affect your decision.  You may consent to have sex with a person, but your decision may have been different had you known that they were married; if s/he did not tell you that, your ability to consent was tampered with.  One must also make the decision autonomously, without threats or coercive rewards.

    So how much of this really applies to animals?  An animal can say yes or no, though they cannot speak human language; it is obvious to even the densest of humans that a dog’s snarl or a horse’s raised hoof means "Back off."  Similarly, animals will ask for sex, though the signals can be less blatant and thus one must pay attention to their behavior to interpret them, especially as we are taught in polite society to ignore them.  The issue, however, is simple; if an animal wants sex, it will ask for it or consent to sexual advances; if it does not, it will resist, fight back or at the very least make it clear with reluctant body language.  At that point the action becomes immoral should the human continue their actions, for they are obviously forcing sex upon a being who does not want it.

    But may animals give fully informed voluntary consent?  Do they know everything they need to know?  The question of ‘fully informed voluntary consent’ has always seemed strange to me when considering animals.
  What does one mean when talking about ‘fully informed?’  Would your marital status matter to a dog? 
That the consent is voluntary should be quite obvious - it is nearly impossible to manipulate or cajole an animal into doing something it truly doesn’t enjoy.
   (Just try to convince a 1500-pound Clydesdale to accept your advances when it’s not interested.) 
And animals do enjoy sex and sexual stimulation; the numerous cases of dogs humping various human’s legs should make that obvious.
  It is even possible to use sex as a reward, much like a food treat or favorite toy.  Most of the considerations humans must take under advisement are a non-issue for animals.
Animals know everything they need to know; so far as their sphere of knowledge and consciousness is concerned, as far as it is relevant they are autonomous beings giving voluntary consent.
  Saying that animals cannot consent because they simply cannot understand what humans would need to understand to consent is an inherently unfair exclusion; if an animal cannot understand something, 
how could it be relevant to them?  And why on Earth would we expect the same levels of understanding for a different species, which by definition has a different capacity and requirement for understanding the world?
  To expect the human of the non-human is to expect the unnecessary and the unobtainable.

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There is also the concern that a particular animal’s loyalty to an owner would make it unwillingly consent to his/her advances.
  This is patently anthropomorphization; even if an animal is completely devoted to its owner and is utterly gentle and submissive, it will not hide its own reactions.
  If it does not want to have sex, at the very least it will pull away and act reluctant or uncomfortable, at which point the person (who should be fluent in the species’ body language,
just as you should speak a common language with your human partner) should stop.  If they do not, it has become rape.  Rape is rape regardless of species, and rape is immoral.

    As it has been stated and as it should be obvious, animals can and do enjoy sex; their libidos are close enough to ours so that many species are known to masturbate or even engage in recreational sex.
  Also, given the slightest bit of encouragement, animals will of their own free will seek out sexual attention from humans.
  They will even do so with discouragement - the stereotype of the incorrigible dog humping a human’s leg, for instance.

    On the flip side, can humans understand what sex means to the animal?  It can be very difficult to understand certain behaviors, given the language barrier, not to mention the species barrier. 
However, it is not impossible.  Animal trainers and handlers must understand body language; often their lives depend on it, as is the case with elephants, wild cats, or wolves.  As far as sex goes,
sex may not always be an expression of love or even of affection (as is true with humans); male-male mounting behavior in many species is an expression of dominance and aggression.
  However, these differences do not mean that we are unable to understand non-human sex.  We must simply observe and study.

    However, even with consent, even with understanding, is bestiality against the best interests of either participant?  Humans can want things that are essentially bad for us;
merely because we consent to or understand something does not mean that going ahead and doing it will be good for us. 
The same goes for animals; their liking for antifreeze is conclusive proof that they can want things that are bad for them.
  Indeed, it is possible to invite negative consequences - such as infection or injury - if one is not careful while engaging in bestiality.
  But mere injury or sickness would not make it *wrong* - that can happen during human sex as well.  Foolish or imprudent does not make immoral.

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 However, if the act of bestiality were wrong simply because of the nature of the act, then it would be a function of the entire domestic animal - human relationship.
  Animals and humans collaborate on many areas of life; from working animals to lap pets, we live in close quarters, we share resources, we become deeply emotionally attached to each other.
  We consider them family; there are pet hospitals and pet cemeteries.  People mourn their pet’s death and take joy in shared activities.
  The relationship between humans and domestic animals is extremely close; with all that emotional intensity, sex can rightly be considered an extension of that relationship.
  Whether this relationship itself is wrong is a huge argument that will not be considered here;
suffice it to say that I do not consider every pet owner and farmer to be immoral simply because they have close relationships with animals.
  Nor are bestialists immoral simply for extending that relationship into the sexual realm.  An action cannot be wrong simply because it is sexual; there must be other basis.

The Human Side: Psychology and Religion

    The psychology of the human wishing to engage in bestiality is the next topic under scrutiny.  I do not consider perversion to be a relevant judgment; like unnaturalness,
it is often used to describe something which is merely aesthetically repulsive to the individual.  If something is indeed ‘perverted’ and morally wrong to boot, then it will be wrong on other basis, not simply because it is perverse.

    A common conception (that is not always a misconception) is that the humans who engage in bestiality could only be interested in the animal as a sex toy; in other words,
no one who really cared about animals would have sex with them.  Stated in those terms, it seems very odd.  Is not sex a tantamount means of expressing caring, love, and affection,
especially considering that sex is as enjoyable to animals as it is to us?  That aside, some humans obviously do practice bestiality not because they love the animals, 
but because the animal is a non-speaking yet living object that they can treat as a sex toy.  And of course there is always the lonely Shepard or curious farm boy, 
where the animals they accompany are the only outlet for sexual energy.  But these are not the only participants in bestiality.

  Bestialists - perhaps in this context more accurately labeled zoophiles - are often people who not only claim to deeply love and care about their animals, but whose behavior supports this claim.

  They are experts in animal behavior, knowing exactly what signs to look for  to be able to tell when the animal is annoyed or uncomfortable with their advances (and vice versa);
they take good care of their animal partners, and are conscientious pet owners; many are fierce animal-rights advocates and detest animal cruelty in all it’s forms.  With all this,
it would be ignoring the evidence to then say that they are objectifying the animals as toys or even rationalizing their practice in the face of contrary evidence, as practicing pedophiles do. 
As much as any chaste animal owner, they deeply care for the emotional and physical well being of their companions.

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A common approach is that by having sex with an animal, the human is degrading him (or her) self.  This viewpoint is often derived from the notion that humans are eminently superior to animals;
often this has a religious basis.  Religiously, animals have been regarded as under Man’s rule, for us to use and even destroy as we please (though this has considerably softened in contemporary environmental-conscious times);
though sex could be considered just another use, it would be absolutely taboo for a human to actually relate to an animal on it’s own grounds.
  Especially as sex is regarded as existing solely for procreation, and perhaps for the expression of love, sex with an animal is absolutely forbidden.
  The concept that one might love or relate to an animal is highly threatening to the Church’s anthropocentric world-view.   This argument, like most arguments with religious basis,
is compounded with problems; the foremost being that homocentric is little more than a Western excuse for human dominance and rationalizing atrocities such as the meat industry and animal abuse and neglect.
  That being the case, I will address the non-religious issue: that bestiality is degrading relative to what humans should be and should do in their relationships and sexual activity.  
This argument is not without appeal; for surely, a partner with whom you can relate to on the same intellectual level, and with whom you can share activities of human nature is to be sought.  
Of course, this point has merit.  However, it is also not to be denied that deep emotional bonds with animals are possible, and they do share aspects of our lives in a different fashion. 
True, one cannot discuss philosophy with them, but even the chaste pet owner can relate to them on a deep emotional and physical level.  Zoophiles extend that to the sexual realm. 
It may, perhaps, be considered immoral for a zoophile to substitute human relationships for animal ones; however, not all zoophiles are animal-exclusive, and even if that situation would be considered immoral, it would not make the practice of bestiality itself immoral.

    Many argue that sex should only occur in relationships where you can relate to the person on a human level; but sex can be an expression of many things, not merely a completely egalitarian relationship.

  It is the embodiment of the flesh; it can express so many things, from pure physicality to romantic love to mutual friendship.  
Though a relationship where a meeting of minds does occur may be ideal that does not condemn anything less as being immoral. 
This would devalue the relationships of those humans who simply do not choose to (or who are even not interested in) intellectual issues, negating the tremendous value of their emotional, physical, and (if you will) spiritual connection.  It would indeed be asking too much to ask all persons to seek the ideal or nothing.

 
Moreover, people who engage in bestiality for more than pure physical pleasure profess that they truly feel a sexual and emotional attraction to animals parallel to or even beyond that which they feel for humans.

 
If one can indeed relate to another being across the species barrier so intimately, as reading accounts of zoophiles has convinced me, then that relationship does not fall so very short of the ideal after all.

 
It is a huge step for the typical anthropocentric mind to accept, that a human could relate on such grounds to an animal; however, after reading the writings of zoophiles with an open mind, one must accept that it is so. 

This is further supported by the fact that many zoophiles simply take pleasure in masturbating the animal to orgasm, and not merely using it as a tool towards their own gratification.

 
They derive pleasure from giving the animal pleasure; it would be hard to find a truer point towards the proof of love.  There is as much sincerity and feeling in their accounts as there is for accounts of human love, 
and if one is to believe in love at all and treat the evidence fairly, human-animal love is undeniable.

    What about animal-human love though?  Can animals reciprocate the feelings?  Love is a terribly difficult emotion to prove, especially in the absence of language.  
However, animals are affectionate and loyal; and as much as is possible through the species barrier, they display all evidence of being capable of love.  
There is always the problem of communications, and of course of what sex means to the animal; however, given intimacy and close observation,
no person who lives or works with animals can deny with a clean conscience that animals do not love.  The evidence, though much of it is anecdotal and personal, is there.

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Is the human-animal attraction a sickness?  Pathology to be cured?  As of today bestiality is still on the psychologist’s list of paraphilias or mental disorders, much like homosexuality was a few decades ago. 

In the case of homosexuality, psychologists were simply unaware of the committed and happy relationships that were possible within homosexuality.  
Out of plain and simple ignorance, they condemned an entire sexual orientation as a mental sickness.

 
I would make a similar analogy to bestiality - psychologists are simply unaware of the relationships that are possible with animals.  
Of course not all of those practicing bestiality even consider connecting with an animal so deeply; remember the lonely Shepard.

 
However, there is a considerable community of individuals who find themselves much happier when loving and consummating animal relationships than when restricting themselves to humans; and, barring a concrete wrong (such as animal abuse), I for one will not condemn that happiness.  To all appearances, it is fulfilling and complete; it is not indicative of any psychological shortcoming. and when abstaining from internally accepting or practicing bestiality, many zoophiles experience the same symptoms that homosexuals do while still in the closet - most notably extreme loneliness, isolation, and depression.

 
Bestiality cannot be cured, and at least one psychologist has expressed the view that there is no need to change it.

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"I so much miss all my animal partners"